Today as I was getting a rather way too energetic massage by a “masseuse” that was obviously more skilled at happy endings than real massages, i mean i insisted that i wanted a real massage and that i wasn’t going to pay if it was shitty.
I even stopped her and gave her a 5 minute massage so she would understand.. to which she reacted that if i continued she would fall asleep instantly.
It was a bit better afterwards, not a lot.. she still massaged bones (no no) and didn’t really slow down or put into intention into it. Of course she was tired after! Not using her body weight, going way too fast, acting probably the same way as if she was scrubbing a floor.. obviously not enjoying herself.
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A few years ago; I found myself wandering around Colombia, I wasn’t sure where I was going, or why; to be honest. In fact when I landed in this beautiful country which I had on my bucket list for multiple reasons, I didn’t have ANY plan whatsoever. The customs officer didn’t have it; i had to know where I was sleeping that night. I was kept aside until everybody had been through customs then he gave me a short lecture on how irresponsible I was. Of course I am!
Continue reading “When two psychics make love”
There is a case to be made about the quality of your orgasms and it all depends on how they are “grown”, or approached.
Generally speaking people have lots of passion (or not haha) and go intensely about their sexual activity believing that intensity will eventually result in orgasms.
And so there is a tendency to push yourself or the other person towards it and “rush it out the door” if you will.
How many times I’ve heard: “yes yes don’t stop, DONT STOP 🛑” or “harder, please faster”. Or in different languages: “surtout t’arrête pas!” To be honest it annoys me generally and makes me want to slow down, if not take a break completely so we can start over haha
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I haven’t written in years, mostly because I thought it would be better to forget about this subject of long orgasms. With recent events and changes in society in the western world, it’s become increasingly difficult to find women that have the capacity to enjoy herself enough to let go completely and indulge in pure pleasure.
However a recent visit to a world where smartphones have less than 1% penetration I’ve realized that these societal changes are actually causing a deep disturbance in women’s ability to live pleasure. In fact in that said country 100% of women I met did let go and experience long orgasms. It’s a stark contrast from the less than 1% from the recent years in Canada.
Therefore here I am again. This one is about cakes, cakes with multiple layers of “tantric” pleasure. I mention “tantric” here simply because the lover with which it happened last time likes to call it “tantric sex” ;). Basically what happened is that with a bit of persistance and proper rhythm variations, she managed to have one orgasm after the other and each time they got deeper, and deeper, and deeper; to the point where she almost passed out by the last one. She was very disoriented and needed some time to re-adjust, easily one hour, before she fully came back to herself.
Continue reading “Multi-layered orgasms, or orgasmic waves!”
Kundalini is mythic, it’s this idea that your true self comes forward, moving from the depths of your subconscious to the surface; giving you so much energy; and the strength to become yourself. That’s the end result, but the first times it happens you actually will feel crappy, most likely, because a cleansing needs to happen first. Cleansing of your energy, of your chakras, of your beliefs; the ones you don’t need to carry anymore.
It’s an offloading, most of the time, you fall into this rather passive state where pain simply surfaces; it feels endlessly, sometimes accompanied with a minor headache, you are there; perfectly aware of what is going on, yet since all your energy is being consumed with cleansing, you can’t do much. Hold still, and wait; bear witness.
I was seeing a girl for almost 2 years, Myriam. Over time I learned of her true nature, but when the event I am about to describe happened I did not know who she really was. Still I was able to give her orgasms that lasted from a few minutes to almost 10 minutes regularly, almost every time we made love. It was beautiful, and this one time after we had a few fights in a row, she came to my lovely house and we made love in the living room in the sun repeatedly. until.. until the kundalini started flowing in her.
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Whenever I talk about long orgasms, there is some kind of reaction. May it be incredulance, fascination, desire, or simply a blip, not understanding what I am talking about. The first reaction of multi-orgasmic women is: “oh I can do that”. Maybe you can have a bunch in a row, but it’s not the same thing as multiple orgasms. It’s VERY VERY different in the depth of the experience. I mean don’t get me wrong multiple orgasms are great; much deeper than regular single orgasm sexual happenings, but one orgasm can last minutes, tens of minutes, an hour. We’re not talking about the same thing at all.
Continue reading “But why do you care about elongated orgasms?”
Where to start? First, an orgasm IS NOT a finish line. It can be so much more; but considering the state of sexual awareness and freedom in modern society, I understand why so many people treat it that way. Sex in today’s society is either glamorized (through porn, pop culture “learn 125 sex tips”) or scandalized (sexual trade, sexual tourism, pedophilia). We rarely hear anything about it concerning what lies in the middle, which is, normally, more balanced. Yet the beauty and the depth exist in this balanced state; you need calm and serenity to explore it.
To a lot of people, just ‘getting laid’ is quite the challenge. hence the need for pornography. and sex trade, etc. This is a subject that requires a in-depth exploration and I will write a post on that some other day. for now let’s concentrate on orgasms.
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Following yesterday’s post, I thought that maybe I could write a “how to”. You know, for those of you who haven’t slept around as much or tried as many things; everyday people, who’d like to stay normal but would still like to enjoy this little perk.
I’m not calling this Extending Female Orgasm for Dummies. Yet. hahaha.
So, here are the pointers. First, it is a two person thing, until you completely master it. The woman would need to tell her man, that moment, when she is committed to orgasm. Normally girls would say something like: “OMG! I’m going to cum”. Yeah, that moment. We guys get it too; you know how it feels. Ask her to tell you. You don’t have to explain why, just tell her you feel like trying “something”. Now guys, when your lady screams that out, this ISN’T the time to start decelerating. Although if you are really fucking good at it, you can make her go crazy if you start decelerating now, and reaccelerate, and again decelerate when she gets close again, and accelerate again and yadiyadiyada. But that would be teasing and it’s an expert move. Trust me on this for now; I know a woman or two who would slap you on the face if you did it the on the wrong day.
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This isn’t yet universally accounted for, but sexuality is the most powerful force in any living body. The urge associated with it is quite strong, and the stronger it is, the harder to control. A lot of people just want to abandon themselves into the moment, and become more or less unconscious during the act. That works, sort of. It isn’t super exciting however when you are with someone who is more sensitive than you are. And it is like trying to draw a beautiful picture with mittens on; or ski gloves. Not the best situation.
One thing you can try, and you can try this gradually; and picture it as if you are in fact taking the ski gloves off… is stopping while still ‘connected’ physically. This is known in tantra as some kind of exercise. I am not fond of technical sexual exercises in tantra to be honest so I don’t know what it’s called. Too many people use them to become better lovers. I am interested in the development of consciousness not the star rating on a future lover’s exchange website (wouldn’t that be cool tho?).
Continue reading “Fast-Forward meditation; taking breaks during the sex act”
Break break!! Break this, break that. Take breaks and reach orgasms everytime 🙂
- breaking the rythm,
- break beats,
- breaking expectations,
- breaking patterns
Have in common with orgasms? A whole lot due to th forward thinking nature of today’s life.
The big deal with orgasms is that, just like sleep, you need to be completely present to really enjoy them. If you are projecting yourself forward; they are harder to really appreciate. Although in a lot of cases people cheat this by using their imagination during the act to enhance it and get more out of it, you’ll get much more out of sex if you use breaks. All kinds of breaks, every kind of break.
Although the following technique will deliver outstanding results, you should know that there are required conditions. First, you need to like the person you are naked with, second you need to have most pending issues resolved; otherwise those issues WILL SURFACE during this practice. Being in the moment is wonderful, and it brings unparalelled levels of bliss; but you need to be true to reach it. True to yourself, and true to the person you are with. Otherwise they will also work but it will backfire a bit; not that a bit of fighting is bad during intercourse (it surfaces passion) just be ready for it. And if you get to that point, I strongly suggest screaming, light pushing around, let it out. Be true. Truth is love is bliss. Ok enough with warnings…
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