I haven’t written in years, mostly because I thought it would be better to forget about this subject of long orgasms. With recent events and changes in society in the western world, it’s become increasingly difficult to find women that have the capacity to enjoy herself enough to let go completely and indulge in pure pleasure.
However a recent visit to a world where smartphones have less than 1% penetration I’ve realized that these societal changes are actually causing a deep disturbance in women’s ability to live pleasure. In fact in that said country 100% of women I met did let go and experience long orgasms. It’s a stark contrast from the less than 1% from the recent years in Canada.
Therefore here I am again. This one is about cakes, cakes with multiple layers of “tantric” pleasure. I mention “tantric” here simply because the lover with which it happened last time likes to call it “tantric sex” ;). Basically what happened is that with a bit of persistance and proper rhythm variations, she managed to have one orgasm after the other and each time they got deeper, and deeper, and deeper; to the point where she almost passed out by the last one. She was very disoriented and needed some time to re-adjust, easily one hour, before she fully came back to herself.
One thing that needs to be expressed is how important it is to take your time, not to rush, not to push, not to focus even on the orgasms. Let them come when they are ready, not before. Let them come at their own speed, let them expand and contract and expand until they can’t hold themselves any longer and just explode. You can’t reach deep orgasms if they are forced, or if you focus on the technicalities. Put your whole being into them, into letting go, into enjoying the pleasure and one key is to slightly under-deliver. Make the woman want more than you are giving, and give her a bit more, but not as much as she wants, let her be ahead in her desires and you follow slightly behind, always softly yet firmly moving her forward towards the huge cliff ahead, so that at the last moment SHE will take the jump into emptiness.
Before she hits the ground, start a new journey, caress her, find her vulnerable spots and slowly yet firmly bring her to arousal again; there is no need to rush, she has to feel it is happening and agree to it. It is important to do it before the first one is completely over, as you keep digging in the layers of personality and head straight for the soul.
Again slightly underdeliver, it’s important I think to have some variations on each layer, to guide her to new places inside of herself so that the orgasms are slight variations of the last one, and again do not push, or force, or pretend to be in control. She is, it’s her journey, you are simply a guide/facilitator/slight defender of her freedom to delve deeper, and deeper.
This is different from long orgasms, it’s more like orgasmic waves. Ride the waves to bliss!