Where to start? First, an orgasm IS NOT a finish line. It can be so much more; but considering the state of sexual awareness and freedom in modern society, I understand why so many people treat it that way. Sex in today’s society is either glamorized (through porn, pop culture “learn 125 sex tips”) or scandalized (sexual trade, sexual tourism, pedophilia). We rarely hear anything about it concerning what lies in the middle, which is, normally, more balanced. Yet the beauty and the depth exist in this balanced state; you need calm and serenity to explore it.
To a lot of people, just ‘getting laid’ is quite the challenge. hence the need for pornography. and sex trade, etc. This is a subject that requires a in-depth exploration and I will write a post on that some other day. for now let’s concentrate on orgasms.
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Following yesterday’s post, I thought that maybe I could write a “how to”. You know, for those of you who haven’t slept around as much or tried as many things; everyday people, who’d like to stay normal but would still like to enjoy this little perk.
I’m not calling this Extending Female Orgasm for Dummies. Yet. hahaha.
So, here are the pointers. First, it is a two person thing, until you completely master it. The woman would need to tell her man, that moment, when she is committed to orgasm. Normally girls would say something like: “OMG! I’m going to cum”. Yeah, that moment. We guys get it too; you know how it feels. Ask her to tell you. You don’t have to explain why, just tell her you feel like trying “something”. Now guys, when your lady screams that out, this ISN’T the time to start decelerating. Although if you are really fucking good at it, you can make her go crazy if you start decelerating now, and reaccelerate, and again decelerate when she gets close again, and accelerate again and yadiyadiyada. But that would be teasing and it’s an expert move. Trust me on this for now; I know a woman or two who would slap you on the face if you did it the on the wrong day.
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This isn’t yet universally accounted for, but sexuality is the most powerful force in any living body. The urge associated with it is quite strong, and the stronger it is, the harder to control. A lot of people just want to abandon themselves into the moment, and become more or less unconscious during the act. That works, sort of. It isn’t super exciting however when you are with someone who is more sensitive than you are. And it is like trying to draw a beautiful picture with mittens on; or ski gloves. Not the best situation.
One thing you can try, and you can try this gradually; and picture it as if you are in fact taking the ski gloves off… is stopping while still ‘connected’ physically. This is known in tantra as some kind of exercise. I am not fond of technical sexual exercises in tantra to be honest so I don’t know what it’s called. Too many people use them to become better lovers. I am interested in the development of consciousness not the star rating on a future lover’s exchange website (wouldn’t that be cool tho?).
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Break break!! Break this, break that. Take breaks and reach orgasms everytime 🙂
- breaking the rythm,
- break beats,
- breaking expectations,
- breaking patterns
Have in common with orgasms? A whole lot due to th forward thinking nature of today’s life.
The big deal with orgasms is that, just like sleep, you need to be completely present to really enjoy them. If you are projecting yourself forward; they are harder to really appreciate. Although in a lot of cases people cheat this by using their imagination during the act to enhance it and get more out of it, you’ll get much more out of sex if you use breaks. All kinds of breaks, every kind of break.
Although the following technique will deliver outstanding results, you should know that there are required conditions. First, you need to like the person you are naked with, second you need to have most pending issues resolved; otherwise those issues WILL SURFACE during this practice. Being in the moment is wonderful, and it brings unparalelled levels of bliss; but you need to be true to reach it. True to yourself, and true to the person you are with. Otherwise they will also work but it will backfire a bit; not that a bit of fighting is bad during intercourse (it surfaces passion) just be ready for it. And if you get to that point, I strongly suggest screaming, light pushing around, let it out. Be true. Truth is love is bliss. Ok enough with warnings…
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I often come across as someone who seems so convinced, so obviously certain about what I am talking about. That conviction as it turns out isn’t a gift from the gods, it stems in a quite unique soul life path. We all have a unique one, we’ve all been different things in different lives. It goes back far, really far. All the way to being a rock, or a grain of salt, or sand.
Since I started writing about sex on my blog I’ve been on the quest to make orgasms last longer, it’s a fun thing to play with; most of the time. Somehow deep inside I was convinced that there was a way to get people to stick in the orgasmic phase of pleasure for an unlimited length of time. I just knew it was possible; how exactly I wasn’t sure. In all honesty, and this might seem distorted to anybody who hasn’t read my biography, I’ve come to that understanding when I was being abused with my head under water; so basically being abused and drowned at the same time.
So last year, during spring and summer I wrote a few blog posts.
And I tried on a few of my lovers; at different levels; or pushing the enveloppe and/or keeping them in the orgasmic phase.
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For the record, I’m writing this for women out there. And indirectly for me, because. Well, if you read through you’ll understand.
As a woman, and as a man, I am sure you’ve lived an experience like this before: the man approaches the woman with his 6 inch intention clearly outlined by a bulge in his pants, and when you lean against the woman’s body the woman can feel his intentions even more clearly. He’s turned on, like hard on.
Have you ever thought, or lived the opposite situation? I mean only in extreme cases could you ever see a woman’s sexual intentions through her pants, and hard nipples can be a sign of many different things. But what about a naked woman leaning against a naked man and pussy juice dripping on the man’s leg? You think I am crazy right?
Well. No. It’s been happening to me rather frequently lately, and not from just one of my lovers but from many of them; but all of them have one point in common, I have introduced all of them to orgasmic meditation.
Orgasmic Meditation (or OM)? What is that? That, my friend is an incredible feeling of a liberated woman, who feels empowered by her sexual blossoming and freedom; the freedom to love sex for sex, to be allowed to indulge into sexual pleasure without guilt, without judgement, with no fear. If you are monogamous, she can do that with just her man, although I’d tend to argue that monogamy is a mistake; I’m not here to convince you it is. I am here to convince you that Orgasmic Meditation has a very powerful transformative effect on women and their ability to live pleasure. To not feel like sex is supposed to be used to keep her man close by, or as a way to get through in life in some situations, sex is a means to exquisite pleasure and ecstasy; limitless pleasure. And that pleasure will be shared with one or many men, radiating through all spheres of life, all forms of personal empowerment.
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